Chris Brown on abusive relationships

MTV recently invited Chris Brown for an interview with Sway to discuss the conflict with Rihanna and how he growing from it. He once again gave his apologies and has alleged that he is attending counseling to control his anger. Anger is what triggered him to act in a violent way with R&B star Rihanna.

“My thoughts [when I look back on it now] are like, ‘Why did it happen?’ Like, ‘What was I thinking? What is wrong with you?’ That’s what I’m thinking with myself. That’s what my thoughts are, basically, now,” the R&B musician stated.

As Chris Brown looks back into his past he sees his mother being in an abusive relationship with his stepfather. Having to live with such circumstances in his family he promised himself and others that he would not turn into a violent being. Unfortunately there are always consequences for your actions, and Chris Brown got his. Chris Brown’s actions put his fame and reputation with the fans at risk. He was considered a role model, but since the incident he just hopes people learn from his experience as well as he has.

“I think with my fans, they still love me, they support me, definitely. You have those people who will support you. So it’s kind of like 50/50 for me. I got the people that will come out and support and then the people that don’t want to see me do anything. They basically want me in jail.”

Chris Brown also discussed about abusive relationships around the country. The main problem is that whether it is the guy or the girl being abused, he or she does not do anything about it and stays in the relationship. Reasons for staying include no knowing how to get out, loving the person too much to let them go, hoping that someday they change, or because they are too scared of what might happen if they leave.

Signs of an abusive relationship are a partner who:

Is jealous or possessive toward you. (Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of sexual addictions and Love Addiction.)

 Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.

 Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.

 Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.

 Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.

 Abuses drugs or alcohol.

 Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.) 

 Blames you when he or she mistreats you.

 Has a history of bad relationships.

Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.

 You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.

 Makes “jokes” that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.

 Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.

 Your partner “rages” when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control. 

 Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.

 You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.   

 You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it’s the right thing to do.  

If you feel like you are in an abusive relationship, DO something about it! Talk to anyone, a counselor, a mom, a friend, anybody you can trust. You can always get out of it and you can help your partner get help too.